there can come a point when professional help is needed, and that’s completely okay; people have studied and trained for years so they can help you - even if you’re afraid or not sure, please try to take that step at your own pace, and do what is best for you: try a few if you need, because if you can find just one person who can reduce pain or help you recover faster, it’s worth it

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June 5, 2018

real-pcys:

real-pcys:
hot take: moms need to learn how to listen to and comfort their daughters without making everything about their own traumas
a classic example
daughter: hey this thing you do bothers me very much and i wish you wouldn’t do it
mom: well my parents abused me and im not even as bad as they were and i had to sit through it so you gotta sit through whatever i do to you too

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May 27, 2018

cwote:

You are dealing with life and your struggles the only way you know how and you’re doing so great :))

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May 27, 2018

swarnpert:

standing up and blacking out for a few seconds is just transitioning from a cutscene to the actual gameplay

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May 27, 2018

ayellowbirds:

Thread by @melgillman on Twitter, about dubious recent offers to creators from the webcomics platform Tapas. Transcription follows:
Hey, we all know to avoid Tapas (the webcomic platform, not the delicious finger foods) by now, right? They’re going after young creators again with a new “incubator program”, so just as an FYI, let’s examine some information from their call for submissions.
First off, they’re looking for 600+ panel full color comics to be completed in 6-9 months. Script to final art. That’s about a 120+ page graphic novel, for comparison. (Also, the fact that they use the word “season” is a red flag — they’re looking for tv series, not comics.)
[screencap from Tapas:
Mobile-Optimized Vertical Format
Your project must fit our preferred format: full-color, mobile-friendly (also known as “vertical scroll” or “infinite canvas”), and be long-form narratives. A single season will consist of 20-25 episodes, with each episode being roughly 30 panels.
Time Frame
Most projects will start in July and take approximately 6 - 9 months to complete one season of an original story. While we will try to work out a schedule that is most comfortable for you, the ideal start date for projects will be in July or August.
end of screencap]
Wanna know how much money we’re offering? You gotta send us your idea first, sorry. But don’t worry, we promise it’ll take up a ton of your time and not give you any benefits!
[screencaps from Tapas FAQ:
How much will I be paid? Can you give an estimate?
Because everyone’s situation is different (length of story, production time, etc.), we are unable to provide an estimate of compensation. Details about compensation are worked out after we give you an offer. You are under no obligation to accept the offer.
How much of my time will be required for this program?
This project will take a significant amount of your time to complete so we ask that you carefully consider your schedule before submitting.
Do I get benefits (like health insurance or parking expenses)?
No. Being selected for this program doesn’t mean you will be considered an employee of Tapas Media, which means you are ineligible for benefits.
end of screencaps]
THIS is the real boogeyman of the agreement, though. In practice, “joint ownership” means “really, they own it” — you won’t be able to do anything with your own stories without their permission and involvement. This is NOT a normal or fair publishing practice.
[screencaps from Tapas FAQ:
Who owns the copyright of the resulting work?
The copyright will be shared between the creator and Tapas Media.
Why is this a joint ownership?
As we are investing a significant amount of money, effort, and time into your project, we feel that asking for co-ownership is fair. If the idea of joint ownership isn’t comfortable with you, please don’t feel obligated to apply.
end of screencaps]
If you remember that whole Tokyopop debacle, a lot of cartoonists lost their work altogether from signing one of these “joint ownership” contracts. This is a giant red flag.
Last one, and they tried to bury this information: they’re gonna give you no time to negotiate this contract. They want you to start working the same month you get accepted. This isn’t time to hire a lawyer/agent to read over it and help you fight for better terms.
[screencap from Tapas:
Important Dates
Submissions Open: June 1, 2018 12:00 AM PDT
Submissions Close: July 1, 2018 11:59 PM PDT
Responses will begin rolling out after submissions close.
Time Frame
Most projects will start in July and take approximately 6 - 9 months to complete one season of an original story. While we will try to work out a schedule that is most comfortable for you, the ideal start date for projects will be in July or August.
end of screencap]
Anyway, they close their own dang FAQ saying basically “if you don’t like it then fuck off”, and to be honest, it’s in your best interests to do exactly that.
Start that awesome webcomic on your own, keep your copyright intact, avoid these people like the plague
[screencap from Tapas FAQ:
I don’t like this, I don’t like that.
We understand that this program might not be a good fit for everyone. If there is an aspect of the program that doesn’t sit well with you, you don’t have to apply.
end of screencap]
Oh, and if this helped, you can check out Mel’s work melaniegillman.com, where they do stuff with colored pencils that makes me weep.